It Took Me 3 Painful Break-Ups to Finally Realize Love’s True Meaning

Love isn’t (just) a hormonal cocktail, deep connection, or lock-and-key compatibility

It Took Me 3 Painful Break-Ups to Finally Realize Love’s True Meaning
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Hiding the hot tears streaking my face, I stormed away. The soccer court that used to blush at our starlit kisses mocked me. Her taunting half-smile threatened to haunt me.

We’d both known from the start it couldn’t last. She was going abroad for her master’s, and I was only a sophomore. But my naive teenage self was drunk on hope — and “We’ll see when the time comes” arrogance.

Her absence drained my face and world of color. Life became a loop of Lana Del Rey, heartache, and nostalgia…

The serendipity that cast her as the photographer of my bodybuilding debut. The stirring eye contact that made me hunt for her — offline and online. Our world-melting first kiss. Time-dissolving strolls under starlit skies. The silent library hours of singing hormones.

“It was true love. How cruel of the world to separate us.” I drowned in self-pity.

The author’s bodybuilding meet where he first saw his then-girlfriend and the only photo with her he’d ever taken
The fateful meet she’d photographed and the only photo of ours I’d taken.

As time marched, memories and heartache faded. Color and zest returned. Healing and wisdom arose.

But only two years later would I realize how wrong I’d been.

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